As humans, we are hardwired for love.

But that doesn’t mean we know how to get the love we long for.

The moment you stop merely longing for what you want and start taking action is the moment you begin building a lifetime of loving connection.

Maybe you and your partner are:

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Struggling to communicate

Talking used to be so easy. Now talks turn quickly into arguments. Or stony silence. You’d give anything to feel more heard and appreciated. The right couples therapy can help you communicate in ways that leave you both feeling seen, loved, and understood.

Hurting from betrayal

Affairs, addictions, and other betrayals may have you feeling devastated or afraid. You long to feel safe in your relationship again, but you don’t know how – or if – you can ever get there. Although it’s true that your relationship will never be the same, couples therapy can help you turn this painful rupture into a catalyst for connection.

Unsure about your relationship

You may need help knowing if you’re even compatible. Maybe one or both of you is doubting whether you want to stay together at all. Discernment counseling is a focused, time-limited, and unique form of couples counseling that helps you clarify whether you want to work on the relationship or separate.

Sexually disconnected

Maybe you feel more like roommates than lovers. Your differences in desire or longing for affection have you discouraged or skeptical. Can we ever make this work? Maybe this is just what happens in committed monogamous relationships? Studies show the right couples therapy can help you forge a sexual connection with your partner that’s significantly more fulfilling. (And p.s., your age or hormones or the length of time you’ve been together often has nothing to do with it.)

Neurodivergent

When one of you is neurodivergent and the other isn’t, both of you can feel incredibly misunderstood in your relationship (and in the therapy room). Our work together will focus on creating emotional safety, understanding both your ways of being in the world, and strategies that actually work in building neurodivergent relationships that thrive.

Suffering from infertility

The pain of infertility can disrupt even the closest connections and fill your relationship with grief, fear, and doubt. It can seem as though nobody truly gets it (and everybody else is getting pregnant the easy way). That’s why you need now more than ever to build a safe haven in each other so that building your family the hard way actually brings you closer together.

Forming a step-family

You’ve finally found the love you’ve been looking for all your life, only to have each other’s children - or exes - pull you apart. Step-family dynamics can be incredibly tricky to navigate, whether you’re the insider or the outsider. Together, we will work on helping each of you feel understood and respected so that you can create the life together that you’ve been yearning for.

Imagine if you could:

  • Feel more safe, secure and connected with each other

  • Fight far less frequently

  • Repair more quickly

  • Enjoy each other’s company more

  • Support each other more in daily life

  • Have better sex

Welcome to a different kind of couples therapy. One that gets results.

Emotionally focused couples therapy is a cutting-edge, extensively tested and proven form of couples therapy that uses principles of attachment science to strengthen adult romantic relationships.

EFT focuses on our emotions, behaviors, and interactional patterns as a couple in ways that help us learn to regulate our emotional responses to each other, to speak more vulnerably to each other, and to form the kind of safe, loving bonds that last for life.

EFT sessions may feel different than other therapy you’ve experienced, including other couples therapy. For one, I will be very active in the session. And I will be inviting you to identify what is happening within you emotionally – and between the two of you – as it happens. You will practice saying and doing things differently with each other.

Ultimately, our goal is to make it so that you feel safe connecting with each other, even about difficult things. You can notice and stop your negative patterns with each other as they arise. And when a conflict does occur, you repair more quickly, and reconnect more fully afterwards.

This way to repair and reconnect

How it works

01

You and I speak via phone or Zoom to see if therapy together feels like the right fit, both personally and practically.

02

Our first several sessions include a significant amount of information gathering as you identify for me your key problems and I meet individually with each of you for one session.

03

We continue meeting regularly, most likely weekly to start if possible.

Sounds good, let’s get started

Investment

$165 PER 50-minute sessioN

FAQ

  • I work exclusively online via a secure telehealth platform.

  • Research shows couples therapy tends to be most effective when it occurs more frequently to start. That’s why I prefer we do weekly sessions at least in the beginning of our work together if at all possible. Some couples like to meet more than once a week to start - or for more than 50 minutes at a time - and that is possible and often quite effective, if our schedules allow.

  • I do take Blue Cross Blue Shield PPO (or “BCBS”). Many people who do not have BCBS do have out-of-network benefits through their insurance provider. I can prepare for you a superbill that you can submit on your own to your insurance in order to receive full or partial reimbursement for our sessions. You can contact your insurance provider to learn more and I can discuss it with you too.

  • The research on EFT shows that the way you learn to be together in therapy tends to stick long after you’re done. (LINK) That said, you may still experience challenges in life where you could use some additional support, and it’s perfectly okay to reconnect with me for a “tune-up.”

“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow–this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.”

– Elizabeth gilbert

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